Posted on January 24, 2012 - by jennifer

Still Single? Why? – Finale

Part 3 –

How “good” are you?

Many people think that because you make X amount of $$, have no kids (or have kids that you take care of), a great career, independence, have your own place, etc that you’re classified as good [a good woman/man]… If you want the truth, we are all flawed…Many people have the misconception that if they have certain things then they’re the best thing since sliced bread, when in fact many of these same good people are: disrespectful, physically and mentally abusive, selfish, unloving, insecure, liars, lack family values, judgmental, cheaters, inflexible, and the list goes on and on…No one’s perfect and frankly not everyone is going to deal with “your” issues BUT someone will.

Truthfully, I consider myself as a good woman, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t things I can work on and improve upon so that I can be the best person for my mate. Don’t misunderstand, you’re still good (for the most part ) but don’t think that you’ve got it going on so much that there’s nothing you need to work on because believe me, you do – even those people who are married have some issues they need to work on too!

Why are you single?

I’m not married (never have been but I KNOW about relationships) and being married is still a relationship. If you don’t nurture the relationship the marriage won’t work. There are many reasons for being unmarried and sometimes it has less to do with being good or bad, but has much more to do with life’s choices. Had I made different decisions my life would be different right now however because of my own desires, I chose a route that others may have questioned. But one thing about this life is that it’s MINE. No one else can live it for me. Just like others can’t live yours. Live with the choices you’ve made…if you have regrets, it won’t change the circumstance you are in today so keep it moving…

I’ve always believed that “what God has for you it is for you.” Also, marriage isn’t something you enter into lightly so don’t rush it…As hard as it is to be patient remember that all things happen in due time [in His time, and if you truly believe that and keep the faith, you'll be fine]…so in the meantime, while you’re preparing for that wonderful person to come into your life, focus less on the perception of others, find a way to make YOURSELF happy, work on being a better you, and accept your decisions…

So are you still single? Who cares as long as you’re happy and content…keep moving forward…Love will find you!

B-E-Z

JNS