Posted on January 10, 2012 - by jennifer

Still single? Why? – Part 1

Still single? Why? – Part 1

I was urged to write a blog entitled “why don’t men want a good woman” so… instead of that topic, I kept with the theme, somewhat, and decided to write about being single (or unmarried) and why…so this is for both men and women since in my opinion, everyone deals with the same types of issues as it relates to being “single.”

I’m single and reminded of that each time I need to fill out some sort of survey or application and I check the single/unmarried box. And I think especially for women, as we get older, checking this box can start to nag at the spirit and weaken our self-esteem. That doesn’t mean that there aren’t a few men who feel equally as uneasy about this status label but for ages women have been taught that we would grow up, meet some great guy to sweep us off our feet and then we’d live happily ever after. Unfortunately, we live in the real world and that fantasy is false (in most cases – hopefully there are still a few optimist in the world. ) But as I started writing this blog, I realized there were questions that I should be asking of everyone, including myself, as it relates to being single.

First of all, let me make a point or two, not everyone will get married. Some people will live blissfully together without ever having the ceremony or purchasing the rings…And that’s perfectly acceptable. But more importantly, I don’t think a person should be defined by whether or not they are married or single. Society, our families and peers do this enough, therefore defining yourself by your status will only put more pressure to live up to a standard that others have, which may not be who you are or where you are at the moment. It may also force you into a situation that might not last or will leave you seeking that which you should find naturally.

So there are a few thoughts/questions that I want you to ask and consider:

• Perception = Reality…But what is the REALity?

• Will a mate REALLY make you happy?

• How “good” are you?

• Why are you single?

Next time, we’ll dive a little deeper into a couple of the above bullets…Listen, I believe that everyone who wants to be married or wants that special someone will find him/her in due time but until then, just chill and enjoy the “single” ride while it lasts…Or at least until I publish Part 2 of this blog.

Peace my friends!

JNS